Catholic Social Marriage

Most parishes ask for 9 to 12 months before your preferred wedding date. If prior marriages, dispensations, or OCIA are involved, start even earlier. The parish meeting is free and sets every other timeline.

Pre-Cana is the marriage preparation program required by most dioceses. Formats vary: a weekend retreat, a series of weekly evening sessions, or meetings with a trained mentor couple. All formats cover communication, finances, faith, family planning, and conflict resolution. Your parish will tell you which options are available locally.

Technically, yes. Canon law asks Catholics to receive Confirmation before marriage. In practice, the bishop can dispense this requirement, and many dioceses do so routinely. Mention it at your first parish meeting so they can handle it early.

An annulment (formally, a "declaration of nullity") is a finding by a Church tribunal that a prior marriage lacked something essential for validity from the beginning. It is not a Catholic divorce; it says the sacramental bond was never formed. The process typically takes 12 to 18 months and involves submitting testimony and documents. Your parish helps you start the petition.

A Nuptial Mass includes the Liturgy of the Eucharist and runs about 45 to 60 minutes. A ceremony without Mass focuses on the Liturgy of the Word, the vows, and the nuptial blessing, usually 20 to 30 minutes. Both are equally valid Catholic weddings. When many guests are not Catholic, a ceremony without Mass is often recommended so everyone can participate fully.

The Catholic rite provides specific vow forms that must be used for validity. You cannot substitute entirely custom vows. However, many couples write personal reflections to share at the rehearsal dinner, reception, or another moment outside the liturgy.

Yes, with conditions. A non-Catholic minister can offer a reading, a prayer, or a blessing, but the Catholic priest or deacon must witness the vows. This requires advance permission from the diocese and coordination with both ministers. Raise it early at your parish meeting.

Yes. Bilingual ceremonies are common, especially in parishes that serve diverse communities. Readings, prayers, and instructions can be split between languages. Your priest or deacon will help plan which parts are in which language.

Yes, weddings during Lent and Advent are permitted. However, the celebration should respect the penitential or preparatory character of the season. In practice, this means floral decorations may be simpler, and the Gloria is typically omitted during a Nuptial Mass in Lent. Some parishes discourage Saturday weddings during these seasons because of scheduling with other liturgies.

Church fees typically range from $200 to $2,000 and usually cover the building, a parish coordinator, and musicians. Ask your parish for a fee schedule early. Many parishes offer reduced rates for registered parishioners or those with financial need.

Catholic weddings normally take place inside a Catholic church. A few dioceses allow exceptions with the bishop's permission, but it is uncommon. Always confirm with your parish before booking any outside venue.

Wedding music must be sacred and liturgically appropriate. Popular secular songs are not permitted during the ceremony itself. Your parish music director will help you choose from approved hymns and settings. Save your favorite love songs for the reception.

Most parishes allow photography and video with guidelines: no flash during the ceremony, photographers stay in designated areas, and the liturgy is never paused for photos. Ask your parish coordinator for the specific rules.

Bridesmaids and groomsmen do not need to be Catholic. However, your two canonical witnesses (one for each side) must be able to attest to the free exchange of consent. Most parishes ask that witnesses be at least 18. Discuss any questions with your priest or deacon during planning.

Interfaith families are common at Catholic weddings. Your priest or deacon will help choose the right ceremony form so everyone feels welcome. A ceremony without Mass is often recommended when many guests are not Catholic, so no one is excluded from participation.

The Church welcomes you. Many couples who are already living together come to the parish for marriage. Your priest or deacon will not refuse you. Marriage prep may include some additional conversation around the sacramental commitment you are formalizing, but the process is supportive, not judgmental.

A prior marriage bond must be resolved before a new Catholic wedding can be scheduled. This usually means a tribunal process (declaration of nullity), which takes 12 to 18 months. Start this conversation immediately at your first parish meeting. Do not set a firm date or make non-refundable bookings until your parish confirms freedom to marry.

If the non-Catholic partner wants to become Catholic, they may enter OCIA (Order of Christian Initiation of Adults), a parish program that typically runs from September through the Easter Vigil. Your wedding timing may need to coordinate with OCIA milestones. Important: a non-Catholic partner who is staying non-Catholic does NOT need OCIA. See our full OCIA explainer for details.